Whetstone

Whetstone

Workout Date:

07/23/2018

QIC:

Podcast

PAX:

All

The Thang:

WHAT is Whetstone?

  • A Whetstone is a committed mentoring relationship between two men. One (the Stone) serves as a mentor to the other (the Blade).
  • Although the Stone and Blade may indeed be friends, the Whetstone differs from a typical friendship. The purpose of the Whetstone is the deliberate sharpening effort from Stone to Blade in helping him to hone the skills and character qualities that comprise the High Impact Man (HIM) he is called to be.
  • As with anything F3, Whetstone is free, voluntary, at-your-own-risk, and you can modify as needed.

WHY should you sign up for Whetstone?

  • As you may already know, the mission of F3 is to plant, grow and serve small workout groups for men for the invigoration of male community leadership. This means that ALL of our bootcamps, runs, rucks, kettlebells (and yes, even brogas) are MEANS to a much greater END…to get IN the lives of other men in order to BECOME and to DEVELOP HIMs.
  • Just as no man casually “drifts” into being physically fit, no man drifts into becoming a HIM. The “current” of our culture toward isolation, addiction, and mediocrity is strong. Therefore, you must intentionally Direct your life against this current in the direction of personal growth…or you WILL, by default, Drift toward Sad Clown-ness.
  • While all of us have made some measure of progress in the realm of physical fitness, many of us still lack the deeper dimension of HIM-ness that cannot be developed in a COT, Coffeeteria, or Happy Hour. Committing to Whetstone is a proactive step into this dimension.
  • In the end, our workouts, CSAUP events, and happy hours will eventually fade. But how we have influenced and beeninfluenced by one another will be our legacy.

HOW do you sign up for Whetstone?

  • Fill out the Whetstone Interest Form. We will, in turn, use this info to pair you up with another man. IMPORTANT…If you already have a guy in mind that you’d like to partner with, put their F3 name on the form.
  • Keep in mind, it’s an “Interest” Form, not a Commitment Form. That said, once you are paired up with someone you will be asked to Hard Commit to the following 5 things:
  1. Consistency – A minimum of two one-hour meetings per month for one year.
  2. Confidentiality – To go deep, you must have trust and transparency. Therefore, one man needs the permission of the other to share anything personal discussed during a Whetstone meeting.
  3. Courageous Humility – Just as the meeting of a physical blade and stone creates friction against both objects, a Whetstone relationship is not supposed to be a “smooth” process. This WILL most likely be uncomfortable initially. These are “muscles” that many of us are not in the habit of flexing. So just like you were probably sore at your first several F3 beatdowns (and probably are still sore at times) expect to be “sore” in this. Courageously, and Humbly, “embrace the suck” and grow.
  4. Curriculum – Although there will not be a “mandatory” prescribed curriculum to follow, we are recommending that guys start with the QSource posts found on the F3Nation website, specifically the First Quadrant.
  5. Communication – Because we are just launching this, communication will be important so that we can learn what is and isn’t working well and adjust as we go. To this end, we have set up a “Whetstone” Slack channel to help streamline this. Join the conversation.

Lastly, in the spirit of the Top Five EH Excuses posted on F3Nation, we’ve also included a few potential excuses for not Whetstoning…

Whetstone Excuses:

“I already have an accountability partner.” That’s great! All of us should have a few men in our Shield Lock. Whetstone, however, is different than accountability. It’s a purposeful mentorship requiring one man to courageously (and humbly) step into a Stone role and another to humbly (and courageously) step into a Blade role.

“I’m not qualified to be “Stone” where I assume a leadership role in the life of another man.” ALL of you are potential Stones. Have you ever learned from failure? Ever overcome a challenge? Ever passed through one of the “milestones” of manhood (marriage, parenting, owning a home, etc.)? Then you have something to offer. A large part of being a Stone is about recognizing one’s life experiences (and resulting lessons learned) as a gift to be shared with another. Your struggles allow the Blade to be more transparent about his own challenges.  On the flipside, knowing that you are serving as a Stone for another man may just force you to step up your game, walk a little straighter, and address some of those hindrances that have dogged you for too long.

“I don’t need to be a “Blade” where I am sharpened by another man.” If you really think this, then it shows that you very much need to be a Blade. The fact is that ALL of you are potential Blades. None of us has this thing called Life figured out, and development doesn’t stop till we reach the Finish Line. Humbly admitting your need for the intentional influence of another man and courageously extending your trust in him leads to a kind of personal development not found many other ways.

“I just don’t have time for this.” Actually, we’d challenge you to rethink this logic.  Each man is given 24 hours in a day.  You have the same amount of time as every other man on the Big Ball.  No more, no less.  Priorities are what consume our time.  Honestly assess your schedule, which is a reflection of your life’s priorities, and ask yourself if you are truly investing in the things that matter most. How a man invests the time he’s been given ultimately determines his life’s legacy. So, is sharpening the life of another man OR being sharpened by another man worth investing an hour every couple weeks? We think so.

So what are you waiting for?! Fill out the Whetstone Interest Form and join the “Whetstone” Slack channel!!!

 

*Shamelessly stolen from F3 Meca 🙂

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